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2022-01-01 16:45:05 男孩帮助狗从喷泉里喝水， 美国，1947 打开/如何

2022-01-01 16:12:50 Climate Change’s Effects on 193 Countries

These 193 stories show the reality of climate change. In every country in the world. 打开/如何

2022-01-01 16:07:35 How to Get Over Fear of Disappointing Others (FODO)

You’re stressed out because you can’t say no. And you’re unwilling to say no because you’re afraid someone will feel disappointed with you.

This means that if you want to deal with your chronic stress (or anxiety, burnout, overwhelm, etc) you have to deal with the root cause, which in many cases is actually a hidden fear of disappointing others.

How to Get Over Fear of Disappointing Others: 6 Tips

1. Consider the costs of your FODO.

2. Remember that you are not responsible for other people’s emotions.

3. Reframe your fear as uncomfortable, not dangerous.

Just because it feels bad doesn’t mean it is bad.

4. Use reverse empathy to build some initial confidence.

5. Start with the 30% version and work your way up.

6. Watch out for fake guilt. 打开/如何

2022-01-01 16:06:45 Patients in comas could be conscious, but are left ignored

The vegetative state is often described as ‘wakefulness without awareness’. These patients open their eyes and will often have sleeping and waking cycles, although they remain non-responsive to any form of external prompting or stimulation. They are both ‘there’ and ‘not there’, lingering in the indeterminate space between life and death. For decades, it was assumed that such patients lack any awareness, including who they are, where they are, and the predicament they are in.

Several months after her accident, we put Carol into a fMRI scanner at Addenbrooke’s Hospital, Cambridge, and asked her to imagine waving her arms in the air, as if she was playing a vigorous game of tennis. Amazingly, a part of her brain known as the premotor cortex ‘lit up’ in exactly the same way as it does in healthy people, when asked to imagine the same series of actions in the scanner.

This startling result told us that Carol must have understood the instructions and, furthermore, she had been able to turn them into a response; not a physical response, like squeezing a hand or blinking an eye, but a conscious brain response that confirmed beyond doubt that Carol was not vegetative at all, but conscious and aware, even though she had been physically non-responsive for more than five months. 打开/如何

2022-01-01 16:05:34 Happy New Year HN! What are your plans for the new year?

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29746344

My goal for the next year is just to work fewer hours. Covid pushed my work habit to the extreme, and I need to rebalance.

1. Read more books, less social media/news.

2. Spend more time with my friends. I haven’t seen some of them IRL (In Real World) for more than a year.

3. Exercise more, play tennis with my daughter, spend quality time with my kids.

4. Spend more time with my parents. They’ve become visibly older in the last years, an observation that scares me.

5. Focus more on marketing for the businesses that I’ve bootstrapped. All the shiny new features that are developed are not as important as getting more people to use your product.

6. Promote open-source project to 1k GitHub stars. I know it isn’t very meaningful, but it’s just nice to receive a bit of recognition from the community.

7. Enjoy life, don’t stress about all the little things that happen along the way.

Happy new year!

I recently read Atomic Habits by James Clear, and also listened to some process philosophy from Steven West’s Philosophize This. One takeaway that I had was on the danger of setting goals. I am trying to build a mindset of ‘becoming’ or to embrace the journey of the goal rather than really trying to achieve a specific milestone.

I want to reduce/eliminate my alcohol consumption to become a person that doesn’t rely on alcohol for social distraction or self-medication. To achieve this I have stopped keeping any alcohol in my home. If I have a drink it will need to be out somewhere and by virtue a ‘special occasion’.

I want to improve my work-life balance by setting expectations that I am unavailable after 5pm. I aspire to be someone who can remain a high performer while also finding and following my passions. This year I will continue to shape those passions. There is no real milestone that I feel I need to set.

De-addiction of Tech News sites. Feeling like I consume too much time reading news, and too little doing on my side projects. Time to reverse it. i.e. more focus on shipping something.

My plan is to mediate more consistently. Hopefully every day. I’ve found it to help my mental health immensely when I am consistent and recently my mental health has been poor.

Wake up early and work on important goals first, before diving into day job and getting too tired to do anything
write an essay a month, however short
live and work remotely outside of home country, for 6+ months total
get a tattoo that would remind me that I’m still alive and how precious that is. 打开/如何

2022-01-01 15:59:09 用什么写作，才能不分心

https://wangpei.net/2021/12/15/on-anti-distraction-writing-devices

正像一句俗语所说的：差生文具多，破车爱贴字。喜欢折腾工具的人，写的东西往往不怎么样，甚至写不出东西。 打开/如何

2022-01-01 15:57:28 6日，新华社发布特稿《习近平带领百年大党奋进新征程》。 文章称习近平“无疑是驾驭历史潮流的核心人物”、“‘像爱父母那样爱老百姓’的党的总书记”、“众望所归的领导核心”、“让国家强起来的战略家实干家”、“开辟新境界的时代变革者”、“胸怀天下的大国领袖“、“继往开来的领航人”。 文章说，在习近平亲自部署下，中国妥善应对了中美贸易战、科技战两大摩擦，捍卫了国家利益。 文章还提到，“2019年香港发生暴乱，他指挥捍卫‘一国两制’事业，粉碎了反中乱港势力‘颜色革命’的图谋。” 文章还称，从实现钓鱼岛海域常态化巡航到… 打开/如何

2022-01-01 15:52:53 Tracking China’s Social Media Influence Operations 中国政府和中国媒体如何「#讲好中国故事」(Tell China’s Story Well) https://chinamediaproject.org/2021/10/26/tracking-chinas-social-media-influence-operations Influence operations can take a wide variety of forms, including… 打开/如何

2022-01-01 15:49:29 2021年那些没有答案的新闻，我记得

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2022-01-01 10:00:31 Happy New Year and All the Best 2022

新年快乐 打开/如何